Cory, like just about everything you write, i relate to this. I’m a peer specialist, and peer specialists are encouraged to share their own life experiences. But I’m trying to do less of this because sometimes I think I overshare. I have to remind myself that the group or the conversation isn’t about me. It’s about the people I’m trying to help.
I really relate to this, Alan. Our own experiences can be useful, but I think the question is whether sharing them serves the person in front of us, or something we need in that moment. I’m still learning that line myself!
Sometimes the plan asks for more than our current capacity allows."
I know that wasn’t the point, but it sure feels like life is going too fast for me right now to step back and utilize the tools I have acquired.
I had two medical check-ins today. The first said "Retire, but you're only 57". The second got mad at the first one, "He really doesn't understand what you have/are going through does he?". My response was "No, and that's why I am talking to you and not him." 😀
I don’t think that’s beside the point at all, Tim. Sometimes recognizing that we don’t have the capacity to reach for all the tools is part of the awareness…not another failure to use them! It sounds like you’re carrying a lot right now. I’m glad you have someone on your care team who understands that.
Your honesty about the gap between knowing and doing is such a comfort. I really appreciate how you name the protective roles our old habits play, instead of treating them as simple flaws to fix. Thank you for sharing your own process so openly, it reminds me that noticing and patience are part of the work, too.
Cory, like just about everything you write, i relate to this. I’m a peer specialist, and peer specialists are encouraged to share their own life experiences. But I’m trying to do less of this because sometimes I think I overshare. I have to remind myself that the group or the conversation isn’t about me. It’s about the people I’m trying to help.
I really relate to this, Alan. Our own experiences can be useful, but I think the question is whether sharing them serves the person in front of us, or something we need in that moment. I’m still learning that line myself!
"Sometimes we’re just tired.
Sometimes the plan asks for more than our current capacity allows."
I know that wasn’t the point, but it sure feels like life is going too fast for me right now to step back and utilize the tools I have acquired.
I had two medical check-ins today. The first said "Retire, but you're only 57". The second got mad at the first one, "He really doesn't understand what you have/are going through does he?". My response was "No, and that's why I am talking to you and not him." 😀
I don’t think that’s beside the point at all, Tim. Sometimes recognizing that we don’t have the capacity to reach for all the tools is part of the awareness…not another failure to use them! It sounds like you’re carrying a lot right now. I’m glad you have someone on your care team who understands that.
Your honesty about the gap between knowing and doing is such a comfort. I really appreciate how you name the protective roles our old habits play, instead of treating them as simple flaws to fix. Thank you for sharing your own process so openly, it reminds me that noticing and patience are part of the work, too.
Thank you, Christine! I’m learning that the rush to fix a pattern can sometimes keep us from understanding it. I always appreciate your comments!